All tangled up: Let’s get rid of “no strings attached” sex

All tangled up: Let’s get rid of “no strings attached” sex

Recently, much to my baffled delight, i came across myself perched on Recommended Reading an automatic washer being energetically fingered with a human being male.

Well! This was a fascinating (and enthusiastically consented-to) situation, maybe maybe not minimum of most because

  1. I’m a lesbian (okay, okay, I’m bisexual, but as my hilarious and breathtaking freshman roomie states, “Reina. Guys will perhaps not you will need to have sexual intercourse to you when they read you calling yourself a lesbian in print.” To which we state: The creepy people will!), and
  2. I happened to be on an automatic washer.

Much more interesting: this specific individual male had read a bit of mine on intimate ethics, hookup culture, and vulnerability, in which he had some concerns.

Particularly: Why in the world can you speak to a chick you fucked the early morning after? Does not this just make shit more awkward for all of us?

I really believe that my pussy is really a diplomat, distributing feminism anywhere she goes. Appropriately, and hands being duly removed from my vagina, we assumed our roles across the dryer/campfire. Sharing time!

Towards the smart-asses noting that i favor speaing frankly about intercourse to, you understand, making love: sex is discursive, bitches.

the main topic of the full hour: No strings connected intercourse.

We reside in a tradition that dichotomizes closeness. Oftentimes, we comprehend intercourse as either a love-you-forever, mind-body-and-soul, marry-me experience with which two people are expected to care profoundly for example another and treat each other correctly, or perhaps a throw-away, wham-bam-thank-you-ma’am, commodified, amoral journey across the roller rink. Those sequins!

A politics of purity — a straight, white, cisgender politics of respectability — usually characterizes the kind that is former of. The latter sort of intercourse is well summarized aided by the term no strings connected.